Monthly Archives: February 2014

She

Summer bright day and her standing right there

Me walking to a stranger and talking of weather

Holding her veil and sipping coffee in a diner,

Wondering to myself if fate had been kinder

The infectious laughter, teasing, twinkling eyes

Telling me her name, shyly asking for mine

Never before had such thoughts struck my mind

She was the girl I would walk down the aisle.

Holding my hand and squeezing it tight

Leading me out into a brand new light

Jerking awake amidst a moon strike

She, a dream I had dreamt all night.

An untested belief is like a fish out of water. It is not only not serving its purpose but also choking to death.

People don’t like their beliefs questioned because it frightens them. However, if you don’t question it you will never fully understand its power and furthermore, you will never understand your own personal strength and will. The only thing science has ever taught us is that you should question everything and be curious.

Humour

One of the most desirable thing in a person is said to be their sense of humour. I started wondering what humour means to people and why is sense of humour such a desirable trait. So, here is a list of five things I think people really don’t know about humour:

5. Humour is personal: This is means that it is context based or situation based. You often hear things like, you had to be there to get it (understand). It depends on the audience and on the relationship between the audience and the speaker. Also, there are always things like private jokes which help enhance interpersonal relationships.

4. Humour is character relevant: What would suit one person might not suit another. For example, if you make fun of your own culture it is acceptable form of humour but not about someone else’s. Also, some people just know how to tell the same joke better.

3. Humour is not spoiler proof: There is a thing called spoilers when it comes to humour. Jokes are not funny once you have heard them or if you can guess what the punchline will be.

2. Humour is an art: Having a sense of humour is a skill you develop by noticing what people find funny and what they don’t. So, fret not, if you don’t have a sense of humour (in your opinion) you can always develop it. You need to be lighthearted and willing to learn.

And most importantly,

1. Humour (by intention) should be non-offensive: People with good sense of humour are not trying to criticise others when they make fun of them. Humour at the expense of other human beings is a common practice but the intention of the speaker should never be to offend.

I think humour is awesome and people should all learn to be lighthearted and not take jokes personally. On the other hand, people should also not make jokes with an intent to cause hurt. I will leave you with a joke I heard in a vlogbrothers video:

“Why did Barty Crouch Jr quit drinking?”

“It was making him MOODY”

If you don’t get it, then you haven’t read Harry Potter, which in my opinion a mistake you should go and rectify right now.

TIL #3

Sadly, I am not really doing “Today I learnt” posts everyday mainly because I don’t quite learn something interesting everyday. Even though I did learn things like: Whatsapp wasn’t working for 4 hours (on Sunday, 23rd Feb) driving everyone crazy; Facebook shutting down their email service, these don’t seem things you write down in TIL post. So for today, I learnt something about people. People don’t like to leave their comfort zone and sometimes that is an inconvenience to everyone. Some of us might think, this person is annoying because they don’t want to leave their comfort zone. But then, aren’t you lucky that you can? There is this quote by Darwin,

“It is not the strongest species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” 

Hence, what I learnt today is that I need to become adaptable to change and also, a little more understanding of those who are not. I like spontaneity and unexpected twists and turns but sometimes I forget that there is beauty is harmony and symmetry as well. I just wanted to remind myself of that today. 🙂

TIL #2

Today I learnt a few things:
1. Displaced anger does not help anyone: You should never displace your anger onto those who are not at fault.

2. You cannot always want what others have because if you do, you never really enjoy what you have the fortune of having. True happiness comes only when envy disappear. As long as you think someone has gotten a sweeter deal in life than you, you can never truly be happy.

3. All human beings are bursting with potential and power like nothing other. It’s a shame that we sometimes forget that.

So yes, I didn’t learn anything scientifically relevant today, but this is at least something. Cheers!

Things I hate about being a grown up

So, recently I saw this video on youtube by the vlogbrothers about “How to become an adult” and one of the questions that John Green raises in that particular video is about when do you know that you are an adult. What is the right age? I remember that there was a Lizzie McGuire episode where one of the main characters makes a documentary about when boys start feeling like men. So, yes grudgingly or not people grow up. Here are a list of 10 things I hate about being a grown up:

10. Doing your own laundry: Whether you have a washing machine or one in your building, or whether you are just taking it to the cleaners. It is a headache. You never realize that you are running out of clothes but then, suddenly you have to do your own laundry and you realize that unless you want to wear smelly clothes you might not have your favourite jeans available to go for a party. You also need to plan when to launder your bedding to make sure you don’t have to sleep without a blanket.

9. Buying groceries: Yes, I know this should be somewhere more on top. But buying groceries is not that annoying. If you have to go to the vegetable market and wander around looking for avocado (yes, that is annoying) but I think it is still pretty much an acceptable act to me.

8. Managing groceries: That definitely is more annoying than buying the groceries. You need to make sure that what you buy doesn’t expire the next day. For example, bread usually just lasts a couple of days. Buying bread means, you are planning the next few meals. It sucks, I know. PS- If you are not living alone, this might be less of an issue I think.

7. Dishwashing: So, it’s all great if you have a dishwasher at home. If not, this I think is one of the most annoying things. My advice is: cleaning gloves and hopefully warm water (in winters). Also another piece of advice, do not put off doing dishes until the next day (dishes just are harder to clean). Also, don’t start cleaning while cooking (that’s as stupid).

6. Carrying money/valuables: When you are younger you don’t need to worry about carrying money because your parents will always have enough to take care of everything. However, once you are older you need to be careful all the time. Always thinking about where you put your phone, your money, your credit cards and then going out feels like work.

5. Paying bills/rent: The most annoying thing about this isn’t that you need to pay your bill. More so is that you need to keep track of the ones you have paid versus the ones you haven’t. This gets more complicated if you have several credit cards. The best way to do this is: Keep a reminder every month(on repeat) to make sure your bills are paid. Also, try making electronic transactions so even if you don’t remember your bank account(s) will.

4. Organizing parties/meetups: So, it’s your best friend’s birthday. Their parents are not responsible for throwing a party (but someone has to be) so.. it is you. You need to keep track of everything. From food, decorations, cake, number of people attending and to top it all, a perfect gift. A perfect gift every year. Sigh. Okay, so this one might not be so much annoying, just stressful. 😛

3. Doctor visits/getting sick: So, you are older. You don’t know how exactly but you got sick in the middle of the day and at work. You can’t even walk. So, what can you do? You need to either call someone or you need to get out of your building, catch a cab and get to the nearest clinic. The latter is always going to be a pain.

2. Bank: Funny thing about banks is, they work during working hours which funnily are YOUR WORKING HOURS as well. So when can you go to the bank? Maybe quickly before work (if the bank is very close to work, or your working hours are flexible) or during lunch. So you waste your lunch hour (which is already short) to go to the bank, stand in a looooong line (cos everyone only have time during lunch) and then get whatever needs to be done. An advice to banks: Why can’t you stay open a little past ordinary working hours?

So now for the big one, the thing I hate the most about being grown up:

1. Making decisions: From the amount of salt to put into pasta to whether you need a doctor. All these decisions and no one to help you make them. Even the simple ones like what to have for lunch are painful to make. There is a concept in economy called opportunity cost which simply said means that the cost of your best choice is the benefits of your second best choice.

Being an adult is about being responsible. Responsible for your own actions. Even though I have stated here about the things I hate about being a grown up, there are things I do enjoy as well. I will put that in another post though. For now, I hope you find a way to be a kid in your own way. That’s what will get you through most days.

TIL #1

So, here goes my first today I learned post. So, let’s do two things I learned today (1 fact and 1 divine epiphany[I have those quite often]):

Fact- Facebook is buying WhatsApp for 16B$. Okay so, maybe this is just news that I’m giving you but you know. The reason why I’m putting this in, is because I’m trying to understand business/company strategies. I mean Facebook is a pretty big company. Acquiring Whatsapp (which is almost as big) feels unconventional on some level. My only concern is about data safety and advertisements. For a while now, Facebook has ads, I am concerned that Whatsapp might soon as well. Another less interesting fact/news is that I just saw the promotion videos for Samsung gear(watch) where it’s been called the “next big thing”. So… maybe yes. I’m sure it’s a nice toy, but what other features does it have other than being over publicized in movies and as a result, being cool. I’m still waiting to be convinced by Samsung.

Thought of the day: So, my divine realization of the day is about food. You know, I really like a quote by Spike in Buffy the vampire slayer where he says, “Love isn’t brains children, it’s blood. Blood screaming inside you to work its will. I may be love’s bitch, but at least I’m man enough to admit it” Oh I quoted this, cos I realize that blood is vampire’s food. Also, I love the quote. So, for food today, I was famished. And I went to a new place and bought food. It was quite bland and opposite of my taste buds and I ate most of it without any complaint. The thing I realized was, that as long as it was some food, I would have eaten it. That made me realize that all the time I spend thinking about good food, are the times when I don’t quite need food and even though, I’m somewhat of a foodie, I feel now that I might just be wasting my time.

Anyhow so those are pretty much about what I learned today. I will be back writing on what I will learn tomorrow.