Monthly Archives: March 2013

Our lives: TV shows?

We are blessed with dreams and I just don’t mean the night time dreams our subconscious conjures while we are sound asleep. I mean, also the day dreams and dream/aspirations humans have. I just started thinking about alternative endings or rather alternative lives. Our dreams change during the course of our lives. The dreams change in accordance to the previous dream’s fulfillment or non-fulfillment. What i mean to say is, and here I would quote JK Rowling:

“The consequence of our actions are so complicated, so diverse that predicting the future is a very difficult business indeed.”

I am just generalizing this to mean, that the fulfillment of our dreams would lead into a chain of events that makes it impossible for us to predict the future. I think we might be living in alternative realities. Meaning, if one event, one maybe quite a normal and plain event did not happen in our lives, we would have just missed out on something great or terrible. There is a fallacy called: “Hypothesis contrary to fact” which means:

“From a statement of fact, the argument draws a counterfactual claim (i.e. a claim about what would have been true if the stated fact were not true). The argument falsely assumes that any state of affairs can have only one possible cause.”

Now, why am i stating this? For the same reason I am saying that one fulfillment of dream could have changed our lives. That is not logical. I cannot predict what I don’t know to be true. I was talking about dreams though and where they could potentially lead us if they were to come true. I was just sitting and day dreaming today when I realized, anyone who I had loved should love me because I love unconditionally. That’s at least how I feel about my love for people but yet, I have managed to be alone all this while. I couldn’t understand why.

I realized then, maybe it is okay if dreams don’t come true. There are always alternative endings in a tv show and similarly our lives have alternate paths. I don’t think there is such a thing as destiny. I really think there is a thing as choices. If you believe in destiny, you cannot believe in choice. I like to have an option, so I believe in choice. I think there are a million ways our lives can change, I think we have the power to choose which way is our way. Most importantly, I think it is possible to have alternate realities where different decisions led to different consequences. Then again, I believe in not putting too much faith in one decision. I think life is a journey, what matters is the path you take, not just the turn.
Saying that, I was thinking that maybe someday one of my dreams would come true. Even though they don’t I can always have an alternate ending. (:


With good friends you watch good movies, with great friends you watch shitty movies and blame each other for the fiasco.

I just wanted to thank all my great friends for putting up with the ridiculous movie choices I have had over the past few years. 

Has our time passed?

I see all these people happy about having their someone special in their lives and I wonder if my time has passed. I am single. I have always been single and I can’t believe that my time has passed but what if it has. I was watching the farewell to Sex and the city (yes i have seen the show) but like i learnt something looking at that. I learnt that single women can be successful and happy. There is something more than men to drive them and I like knowing that but what if this happiness has closed doors to our love lives. What if all we ever are going to have is a career we love but not someone who will love us. 

I just keep thinking about people who settle for love, is it alright to do it? Maybe after a while that’s all you can do. Maybe after an age you can’t expect love from people, all people have had their adventure. All anyone really wants is to settle down and live. I had lunch with my boss and he told me he returned to his hometown to find a someone to marry. Apparently he realized that he couldn’t find love where he was and he thought it was time to return home and marry someone. I can’t help wonder if that’s a good enough reason to marry but what if your time is passing. I am of a female species and my biological clock is ticking. If I want to have kids, then should I settle? I keep thinking if I should settle, if we should all settle. What if settlement is just another form of love when your time is going past? Do everyone of us really get love? or do some of us are just meant to settle? 

I don’t know the answer but maybe it is all the crazy things I am feeling. I feel like if time even passes one should not settle, but maybe I am just young and stupid or maybe I just want to believe cos I want to believe there’s time for me. I am just tired right now of thinking about love. So, I won’t be writing for a while. Just cos if I did, I wont think of anything. Let’s just read. Toodles!